I think this is one of the most difficult tasks I have set myself in starting a blog about weddings. Facing up to my own wedding regrets.
It’s inevitable that you are going to have doubts, it’s a its a big day, a lot of money and a ton of pressure, mainly from yourself.
But I guess this is partly why you visit a wedding blog, to share stories, learn from other people and plan the wedding you want without getting so caught up in overwhelming wedding fever.
I enjoyed the most part of planning my wedding to Steve. It was great fun and I don’t think I had any bridezilla moments in the planning process. (The hen do might be a different story. It’s also for a different day ;-))
Our venue was the first we saw, Hilltop Country House in Prestbury Cheshire. It’s a wonderful venue, not too big, stunning grounds, family owned and run, friendly and accommodating. They really made the planning process easy and let us keep the autonomy we wanted but provided solutions where needed. (In the end they did the catering, the music and the photography). A dream for someone like me who likes to be in control creatively but delegate the more organisational (Read: boring) jobs.
The flowers were done by a friend of Steve’s mum, she was brilliant. Again she let us be involved, we told her what we wanted, she told us what would and wouldn’t work out of those choices. We set up sample tables with fake flowers to judge the levels and styles that worked. I don’t think everyone gets this level of involvement, we were very fortunate and the flowers were one of my favourite parts of the day, without a doubt.
Food and entertainment were both great, we knew we didn’t want to spend loads on these, we knew our guest would make their own fun as they are silly, warm and wonderful people. The food was a BBQ and in the evening we had cheese and chocolate, my favourites. We had a DJ, provided by the venue, rather than a band as we knew an eclectic mix of music would suit all our guests and that there were certain friends who would want to pick their own music after a few wines. The day was so beautiful and sunny it worked perfectly, thank goodness! People played football, walked, talked, drank (lots) and then danced all night. I was even serenaded by our friends kids. I was just drunk enough to join in.
However with time and my growing addiction to looking at other weddings the niggles have begun to surface. My dress is one of them. It is an amazing dress, it ticked all the boxes I was looking for unusual, British designer, hand made, romantic and once in a life time. But I’m not sure it was flattering on my big boobed frame, I’m not sure it photographed well and I’m not sure I loved it. It just ticked the boxes. Somewhere in the choosing process I got lost and forgot to go with my gut.
I could have paid more attention to detail, we had a lot of kids attending and I wish I had done more to provide them with entertainment, now I have one of my own I know how much hard work it can be at events and I wish I had thought more about this.
This could be a bold statement for wedding planning resource but I think, no matter how much you plan, no matter how much you gush about it afterward there will be things you don’t like about your day.
It’s inevitable and it’s just fine. In fact I think it’s good.
Perfection is not real, we make bad choices in life all the time, even the most seasoned professionals get it wrong once in a while. It’s part of the fun, it’s part of the process and at the end of the day as long as you laugh, you kiss, you dance and you make amazing memories the niggling issues will fade away. Because through the mishaps and regrets it will be an amazing day. Probably even the Best. Day. Ever.